Having Fun in Relationships – The Importance of Laughter and Joy
When we think about what makes a relationship strong, we often focus on communication, trust, and commitment. While these are essential, one often-overlooked ingredient in a healthy relationship is fun. As a marriage and family therapist, I frequently remind couples that laughter and joy aren’t just nice extras—they’re fundamental to keeping relationships thriving.
Life can be stressful. Between work, responsibilities, and unexpected challenges, it’s easy for relationships to become routine or even burdened by stress. When laughter and playfulness fade, couples can start feeling disconnected. Joy isn’t about ignoring problems or pretending life is perfect—it’s about intentionally creating lightness even in the midst of life’s demands.
Laughter has real benefits. Studies show that shared laughter increases feelings of connection and releases oxytocin, the bonding hormone. It also reduces stress and anxiety, helping couples navigate challenges with more patience and resilience. When couples laugh together, they strengthen their emotional connection, reinforcing the idea that they are a team, even during tough times.
Making space for fun doesn’t require elaborate plans. It can be as simple as sharing an inside joke, watching a funny movie together, reminiscing about a silly memory, or trying something new, like a dance class or a game night. Playfulness is a mindset—one that invites curiosity, spontaneity, and a sense of adventure into the relationship.
One of the best ways to rekindle joy is to embrace the small moments. The little things—like playful teasing, goofy text messages, or a spontaneous dance in the kitchen—can make daily life feel lighter. Even in difficult times, finding reasons to smile together can serve as a reminder that joy still exists within the relationship.
If laughter and fun feel distant, it’s never too late to reconnect. Try reflecting on what made you laugh together when you first met. Were there playful traditions you used to have? Inside jokes? Activities that sparked joy? Revisiting these can help bring laughter back into the relationship.
A joyful relationship isn’t about avoiding serious conversations or responsibilities—it’s about balancing them with moments of connection, play, and laughter. Prioritizing fun isn’t childish; it’s a sign of emotional health and a commitment to keeping your relationship vibrant.
If you and your partner feel stuck in routine or disconnected, consider intentionally making room for more fun. And if deeper issues are getting in the way of joy, couples therapy can help rebuild emotional closeness, offering a fresh perspective and tools to navigate challenges together.
Laughter is a powerful glue that holds relationships together. Keep finding reasons to smile, play, and enjoy each other’s company—because love is meant to be fun, too.
